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Why I’m Taking a Break From Dating

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You get a text message. It’s him. You’ve been waiting for this message all morning.

Lunch plans are made. You get dressed up. Drive to the city. Meet him. Lunch is good, but nothing special. No spark.

Rinse and repeat. Often.


I’ve said it once, I’ve said it twice, and now I’m saying it again: I’m that single friend. I have been that single friend for a long, long time.

I’m the one who is constantly dating. I didn’t realise it until a couple of days ago, but I am that girl.

You know who I’m talking about.

She is the girl who jumps from guy to guy either a) without realising it (AKA me) or b) because she is lonely/craves affection/attention. I know for a fact that I am not the second girl. I am relatively picky when it comes to dating men, but it seems that I have been fairly lucky over the years. I recently stopped seeing someone, and it got me thinking. Really thinking.

I cannot remember the last time that I was properly single. Crazy cat lady, tumbleweeds blowing down the middle of a dusty road single. You know, the ones the cartoons mock constantly.

I remember in high school, I declared that I was taking a break from dating and it was possibly the best thing I did. Of course, I was in high school, so dating equated to nothing more than sitting together at lunch and hanging out (if you were lucky) after school until buses came or your parents picked you up. If you were really lucky then your parents would coordinate and take you on a chaperoned date to the hot pools. Scandalous 😉

After I declared that I was taking a break from dating, I didn’t date or “hook up with” with someone for close to one and a half years. How insane is that? I must have had some serious willpower back in the day. I’m giving past Victoria a high-five right now.

However, I remember how I felt in high school. It is very different to how I’m feeling now.

I’ve been at college (university) for three years and I can’t remember not having some guy in the picture. For the last three years, I have always been chatting someone up, going on fancy dates, casually dating someone or had a late night booty call (or two). No shame. A month or so would pass and the relationship would fizzle out. I would simply phase someone out and that would be the end of that. No harm, no foul.

It’s college. What do you expect?

It takes a certain type of person to get my attention and keep my attention for any amount of time AKA longer than four months. So far, three men have been able to do this. They are polar opposites, in almost every way. They did manage to have one thing in common at the end of the day: They made me feel something for them. I actually became emotionally connected to these men and I still am…to a certain extent.

I mightn’t have been “exclusive” with these guys, but they made me feel wanted and happy. There was the click and it was just easy (most of the time).

Right now, I’m feeling drained.

Dating leaves you tired. Rephrase: Dating the wrong (but wish they were right) people for you can leave you tired.

I think about dressing up to go out for a date and all I think is: “Ugh, do I have to?”

That is when it occurred to me: No, I don’t. I don’t have to do any of this.

I’m taking a break from dating.

The more I say it, the more it feels like the right thing to do.

I need time to regroup and to just give my brain, and underused heart/emotions some time to rest. I need time to focus on myself. I need to really do things by myself (minus the flirting).

So here goes: I am taking a break from dating. Officially.

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  • Reply StephJ

    A few years back I did the same thing. Declared myself as on some sort of dating strike. Best decision I ever made for myself, I came out with a whole new perspective and a rejuvenated idea of what I was really looking for from not only relationships but also life. Best of luck!

    September 22, 2015 at 11:31 am
    • Reply Little Misadventures

      Back in the days of high school, I wanted to make better choices for my body and psyche. I can honestly say that not dating/chasing men was the best choice. Thanks! There might be an exception to this rule, but I’m honestly still trying to figure that one out haha. Time will tell I guess!

      September 23, 2015 at 6:50 am
  • Reply AbigailsWardrobe

    I took a break from dating after undergrad/moving to new city. By doing this I made great friends, traveled, explored and experienced. Wouldn’t trade any of it for the world!

    September 23, 2015 at 1:57 pm
    • Reply Little Misadventures

      That sounds awesome! 🙂 I’m just trying to do my own thing ha. I’m sick of men. I might even write a rant-y blog post about it 😉

      September 28, 2015 at 10:17 am
  • Reply jenovotony

    I love reading your blog because pretty much every post I read makes me go “This is me!” And this post is no exception. I spent most of the last four years in serious relationships (and in between those, bouncing around on a lot of dates) and now I’m just ready to be single for a while. I feel like I need to remember what it’s like to be me without another person in the mix.
    Thanks for writing such relateable material!

    September 24, 2015 at 4:41 pm
    • Reply Little Misadventures

      Aw, thank you! 🙂 That means a lot to me!
      I agree. I know I don’t change in relationships or anything, but I just need to be alone. Really alone for a while. I’m mildly excited about it haha.

      September 28, 2015 at 10:18 am
  • Reply Arpita

    This is so me. I invested so much of myself in the process that now I am like over it! Honestly, I quite enjoy being by myself. Its Kinda fun! Enjoy your alone time!

    October 5, 2015 at 1:43 am
  • Reply carlyalexandra09

    Love this!x

    October 6, 2015 at 3:55 pm
  • Reply xxtokyoxx

    This is so true! Even though I am dating now, I have made it more of a priority to focus on ME. I don’t obsess over everything he’s doing or wonder why he isn’t texting. I try my best to find new hobbies I enjoy doing or going to fun places by myself. And damn it feels good. Then when we actually are together, we have soooo much more to talk about, because we haven’t been glued to the hip talking 24/7 or hanging out.

    November 20, 2015 at 12:48 pm
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